For three years, Alfie's resting place had
been marked with a simple wooden cross.
We have always wanted to get him a permanent
memorial but have never been able to afford it. We spent so much
time looking round the internet over the years and sending off for
brochures but the prices of these things never ceased to amaze us.
At some points we thought we would never be
able to get a headstone for him, at times we were ok with this as we
had really gotten used to the little wooden cross that had been with
him from the beginning.
We loved his cross and all of the other babies
who surround him also still had their crosses so they looked nice
all being similar so it wasn't such a big deal.
As with anything connected to losing your
child though, moods change from time to time and sometimes we really
wished we could manage to get something sorted for him. It is really
one of the only things we can ever buy for him to show him we wanted
to do something nice for him, as we would with any of our kids.
This is where Alfie has been settled for the
last three years at various times of the year and various seasons,
he is right on the brow of a hill overlooking the whole city, he has
a big tree just behind him and it can be very beautiful and peaceful
up there, a perfect setting for a baby's grave. In the winter
though, the wind howls around the top of the hill and it can be
utterly freezing, makes it very hard to spend a large amount of time
there. Take a look.
The quality of each of these different
pictures will vary as a lot of them are taken with my phone so as I
change my phone, the quality improves.
Today Alfie got his new permanent memorial.
It took a while for us to get there but
eventually Alfie's home has had a makeover.
Thursday 29th June 2006.
After looking for the three years since losing
Alfie we found a fantastic stonemason who could do exactly what we
wanted, with no fuss and at a price that didn't go anywhere near the
ones we had looked into beforehand. At first I thought there must
have been a catch, especially when I saw that they are based so far
away from us, but they work in all areas of the country for the same
price, no matter how far it is. When I rang to enquire if they could
do what we wanted and what their price would be I was amazed. The
man I spoke to was really nice, friendly and helpful. A lot of the
masons I had contacted before had a habit of being not unfriendly,
but they didn't make me feel comfortable and made me feel like a
fool as I didn't really know what questions to ask and didn't really
know what was involved in buying and getting a stone erected, I had
never done it before.
I chatted with a guy called Richard who went
through everything I needed to know, assured us that he could do
what we wanted and gave us a rough price there and then. I sent him
a picture of a stone I had seen before and he told me how much he
could make it for, believe me, it was good compared to the original.
I talked with Richard for a while, he was easy
to talk to and put me at ease about everything. We talked for a
while about how difficult it is, losing anybody, especially a baby
and how hard it is to talk to people about things without them going
all weird on you, lol.
We decided to go ahead and do this, we had a
few problems along the way. Information was not in any rush to be
forwarded from the council about anything, we had to wait a while
for all of our permissions as the council had a massive backlog to
get through but we eventually got there.
Today our lovely tribute for our baby boy was
finally installed and we love it, we are very proud to say that this
is where our baby is resting.
I only have a few pictures as of yet as it was
only installed a couple of hours ago.
I can now get all of Alfie's toys and
ornaments back up there and put some flowers in his vase. I will
take more pictures as soon as everything is in place and do a quick
Saturday 1st July 2006
We popped up today with some flowers for
Alfie, the first since his stone went up. Just a couple of pictures
as I'm not sure when we will get the rest of his things up to him.
I'd like to say a huge thank you to Richard
and to Helena also who must be sick to death of seeing my name in
her inbox, lol. We love what you have done for us .
If you are looking for a memorial and you are
in England I'd suggest that you look here, I don't know if we'd have
ever gotten our memorial if we hadn't have found them, it's worth a
W. T. Drage and Sons
4 Wold Farm Park, Broughton Rd, Old,
Northants, NN6 9RH
0800 085 3452